Welcome to 2020! My reflection on 2019 and new goals

2020, What?!

It’s been a crazy holiday period for me, we have guest staying with us for a few nights, and we then hosted a games night. Being an introvert with all these social activities got me feeling very exhausted, so I didn’t get a chance to write much over the break.

It’s hard when one person in a relationships is an introvert and the other gets their energy from other people, it’s a constant balancing act.

So as we embrace on the New Year, I thought I would spend some time reflecting on the past year, and what a year it has been for me. I would say 2019 was one of the most exciting years for me. Not only did I get married and move into our first home, but I got to spend a lot of time with my family, which is something that doesn’t happen all that often, and we even got to all be in the same place at the same time, which is huge!

Quarter One

D and I moved into our new home on 3 January, which was a crazy ride. We moved with very little, which meant we needed almost everything for the house. I remember that first weekend, we decided to host some friends who were moving to Australia and that was literally the only weekend we could see them. So D and I slept on the floor, whilst they took the air mattress we had. That was a rough night.

The next day a delivery of all our furniture arrived, and D and I spent hours and hours trying not to kill each other whilst we put together Ikea furniture. That is a real relationship tester, hah. But we made it and that night not only did we have a bed to sleep on, but our 2 guests became 3 and they all had a bed to sleep on. A huge win if you ask me.

Moving house wasn’t enough of a challenge for me, I decided that we would give Veganuary a try. I didn’t prepare enough, and for the first few days we were stuck eating marmite on toast, hah. But after a week I got into a groove and we managed to go the whole month without animal products. This kick started a new meat free habit for D and I, which saw us eat less meat meals during the weeks.

Wedding planning also went into overdrive in January, D and I had told our parents that we wouldn’t start planning until after the house move, so we had no more excuses. Mum planned to visit before we even had a chance to finish decorating the house, which was great actually, cos she helped D with all the maintenance jobs around the house whilst I was at work, and managed to help me convenience D we need 5 plants, hah.

Thankfully for my mum, she had spent the previous few months working out a timeline and got my butt into gear by making me go dress shopping. I honestly thought I had loads of time, turns our 9 months is on the cusp of not being enough time. So with the help of my mum, I actually bought a wedding dress on my third day shopping.

Quarter two

I didn’t have bridesmaids for the wedding, but I did have a girlfriend getting married a month before me, so we combined our hens party, which meant I had bridesmaids by default. They put on an amazing hens party, I had a lot of fun. But best of all my brother came over for a visit and joined, it was so good to see him and be able to share that with him.

Whilst he was visiting we went to see my favourite musician, Pink, and Ohmygoodness is she amazing. She is honestly so inspiring, seeing her live gave me all the feels. I bought the tickets to her show quite late, but we ended up with pretty good seats, and I couldn’t have had a better experience at her show.

A also got to experience Pride in London, which was a great day, the weather, and the people were amazing, it really rounded off an amazing visit with my bro.

Quarter Three

Entering into the final stages of wedding planning was quite stressful, but before we had our moment at the altar, our dear friends got married in Italy. D had never been to Italy so we took the opportunity to road trip around and spend some time taking in the Italian sights. We spent just shy of 7 days visiting Pisa, Livorno, San Gimignano, Luca and Bologna. Italian coffees everyday was a real treat and we had the most delicious pizza and gelato on our final night.

The wedding was simple gorgeous, the venue, the food and the love, was so magical. It was so special that we were able to be part of their big day.

We also embarked on our whirlwind wedding trip of a lifetime. Planning weddings in different countries was so challenging and presented a lot of difficulties, but the end result was so worth it.

As you’ll know from previous posts <How i organised 4 weddings in 6 months> we spent a week in a game reserve with our immediate family and a few friends, were we had out religious ceremony. We also took this opportunity to show my family the big 5 by taking them on a few rides around the safari park. This was something. I loved being able to see the wild life with my family, I’d been a few times previously, but it was so special to be able to share that with my family.

We were officially husband and wife on 25 September 2019. Being officially married in South Africa was an experience and one that will forever be burnt into my mind. Going to Home Affairs was something I’d gladly never do again.

Quarter Four

After out weddings in South Africa we flew to Australia to be able to share the celebrations with my rather large family. One thing that got me was the jet lag, it was brutal. Flying for only 12 hours wasn’t the hardest part, the sudden change in time zone was the most difficult, it took us around 5 days to actually get a good night sleep.

I had such a fun time at our wedding in Orange, spending all that time with my family and friends that I hadn’t seen in a while, its true when they say your wedding day just flies by. And I feel that way especially about this day. I wish I could go back and spend more time with everyone, I miss everyone dearly.

We finished off the wedding trip by stopping in the Maldives for our honeymoon, and boy was that just pure luxury. I’ve never been somewhere so picturesque, it was just like you’d imagine paradise to be. It was a once in a lifetime kind of stay and we had the most amazing time, it was so nice to just be D and I.

The ended with a final wedding in London for all our friends here. After living here for so long our friends have become our family, and it wouldn’t have been fair to leave them out. That’s another night I wish I could go back and relive.

Finally at the end of 2019 we had our first Christmas in our home, and we hosted dinner for our friends who didn’t go home. It was the perfect way to end the year.

Welcome to 2020, new year goals

So what does 2020 hold for me?

I’ve made two new goals for the year which I am happy to share, they are:

Read more and move to a more plant based diet.

So since I stopping commuting on public transport I’m not able to read as much anymore, so I was finding I wasn’t reading at all, so I’m trying out a new night time bed routine. I have a morning routine, so why not a bedtime one. I’m starting out small and trying to read 2 pages a night, and so far it’s going well. I have read more than 2 pages each night, which has been so lovely.

Next the plant based diet. D and I are vegetarian now, I try to eat mostly vegan, but cheeses are my weakness, so I’m trying to slowly move away from those and look at how I can get all the same macros from other food sources. So this is very much a work in progress.

I’ve been vegetarian on and off most of my life, and this last bout has been 9 weeks so far, and I’m feeling pretty good. I’m looking to get some blood tests done to make sure I’m hitting all my numbers, so I’m hopeful I can switch to fully plant based in the next month or so.

Other than that, I haven’t added any new goals, I still have the same old goals of training and being active, which are carried over from years gone by.

I’m excited for 2020.

Did you make any new year’s resolutions?

Peace out for now


Photos: S O C I A L . C U T on Unsplash , Brooke Lark on Unsplash